Pregnancy isn’t just a journey for the mom—it’s a transformative experience for dads too. At Heartline, our Fatherhood Coaching program is about equipping dads to be fully present and prepared for every stage – from that first pregnancy test all the way through that final potty training success.
Today, let’s dive into five key insights that will help you be better prepared for the roles of partner-in-pregnancy and soon-to-be-dad.
1. You Matter Now More Than Ever
Mike’s Story
When Mike found out his wife, Emily, was pregnant, he thought pregnancy was all about her. But then he attended the first ultrasound appointment, saw their baby’s adorable wiggles on the screen, and heard that little heartbeat for the first time. Seeing Emily’s eyes fill with tears as she grasped his hand tight, he realized—this isn’t her journey alone. His presence mattered. And she needed him.
Why It’s Important
Research shows that when dads are involved during pregnancy, there are healthier outcomes—fewer premature births, lower infant mortality, and more productive prenatal care visits. When guys are supportive, moms are 50% more likely to stay on top of healthcare and healthier during the entire pregnancy. That support isn’t just nice—it’s crucial.
Dads and Pregnancy – Action Step 1
Ask your partner directly: “What can I do to support you right now?” Don’t just assume you know, and don’t try to guess. She can share specifically how you can help, and you can be sure that what you are doing is making a difference – for both her and your developing baby.
And don’t forget to ask again regularly! A lot of changes happen during pregnancy, so what is most helpful in the first trimester may be very different from what she needs in the third trimester. Be present, and make sure she knows you are there to support her no matter what.
2. Pregnancy Is a Shared Emotional Marathon
Jerome’s Story
Jerome started feeling drained and anxious around month four. He kept gaining weight, having weird cravings, and feeling nauseous—just like his pregnant wife, Mia. Worried he was going crazy, he confided in a friend. His friend laughed gently and said, “Bro…it’s called sympathetic pregnancy – and it happened to me too.”
He then learned that some expecting dads can have symptoms that mimic signs of pregnancy: think nausea, mood swings, insomnia, and cravings. These are often linked to the added stress that often comes with learning you’re about to be a dad, which can lead to lower testosterone levels and other hormone changes. Increased levels of empathy with the pregnant partner can also play a role.
Jerome took his symptoms seriously and started keeping track of his moods and cravings in order to better understand what was going on. When he finally shared his experience with Mia, she appreciated that he could empathize with what she was going through, and they bonded over mutual understanding.
Why It’s Important
These emotions aren’t “just in your head.” They’re real signs your body is responding to life changes—literally. Acknowledging them:
- Validates your experience.
- Helps you support your partner with deeper empathy.
- Prevents confusion or withdrawal during what can feel like an emotionally turbulent time.
Dads and Pregnancy – Action Step 2
Start a “dad symptoms” log. Track mood, sleep, and appetite for two weeks. If anything feels intense or prolonged, chat with a friend, mentor, or coach. You’re not weak; you’re wired to care. And your partner will love you for it.
3. Learn the Basics – Info Isn’t Optional
Josh’s Story
At 28 weeks, Josh was clueless during a sudden hospital visit. They rushed in—his wife, Rachel, had high blood pressure. During the whirlwind, Josh froze: “Gestational hypertension? Preeclampsia?” He had no idea what any of these words meant, and he felt helpless, panicked, guilt-ridden.
When he came in for his next Fatherhood coaching session at Heartline, he asked his coach to walk him through possible pregnancy complications. Armed with a better understanding of what could go wrong – and what to watch out for – he felt much more equipped to help Rachel advocate for her care. For the rest of the pregnancy, he became her steady rock, instead of an anxious passenger.
Why It’s Important
Dads who learn about pregnancy stages, risks, and warning signs:
- Can act quickly in emergencies.
- Help reduce anxiety for everyone.
- Strengthen trust and communication in the relationship.
And data shows dads with more pregnancy education are more involved—going to appointments, classes, and advocating alongside their partner—and this leads to better outcomes for mom, dad, AND baby.
Dads and Pregnancy – Action Step 3
Commit to one step this week:
- Watch an online prenatal class together.
- Read up on preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, or hospital procedures.
- Attend your partner’s next OB visit, even if it means rearranging your schedule.
- Schedule a Fatherhood Coaching session at Heartline.
4. Your Support Affects Mental Health—Both of You
Carlos’ Story
Carlos assumed it’d just be physical fatigue. He didn’t expect Gabby to spiral into sadness mid-pregnancy. At just 18 weeks, she started snapping over small things, then she cried unexpectedly. Carlos felt lost—until he connected the dots between stress, depression, and pregnancy.
He encouraged her to reach out to her OB about prenatal mental health and joined Heartline’s fatherhood coaching program. There, Carlos learned that dads can also experience paternal depression, affecting up to 10% of men—especially during pregnancy and postpartum.
Carlos began talking openly with Gabby about how they were feeling emotionally—not just checking off to-do lists. Their relationship strengthened—and they built a healthier environment for baby.
Why It’s Important
- Prenatal depression affects roughly 7–20% of pregnant women; untreated, it can harm fetal health.
- Paternal depression affects up to 13% of dads in early months .
- Dads who are present emotionally help reduce risk for both parents; mutually supportive partners lower postpartum depression in mothers by up to 11% .
Plus, you’re modeling emotional honesty for your child from day one.
Dads and Pregnancy – Action Step 4
Each evening for a week, check in: “How are you doing, REALLY?” Share what you’re feeling and listen to her feelings — no rushing answers, just space for each other’s real emotional experience. If anything feels heavy, don’t hesitate to reach out for coaching or professional help.
5. Be the Advocate in the Room
Luke’s Story
When Luke pushed for a doula during Sam’s delivery, some raised eyebrows. Why double up? But at 40 weeks, Sam’s labor stalled. Nurses suggested Pitocin, the anesthesiologist rushed in, and panic began to creep in. Luke talked with Sam about their birth plan, which emphasized a calm, natural birth. Sam insisted she’d still like to follow that birth plan unless absolutely necessary. So Luke jumped into action.
They had gone over the birth plan many times, and even thought through scenarios just like this where it might be tested. So Luke was prepared to stay calm, voice their stance to the nurses, and work with the staff to support the birth plan while also protecting the health of Sam and their baby. Sam was able to relax, labor began progressing again, and their baby arrived safely. And Luke felt like a superhero.
Why It’s Important
- Fathers who attend prenatal classes and develop a birth plan play a vital role during labor—offering emotional, physical, and communication support .
- A trained partner (or “dad doula”) can reduce interventions, shorten labor, and improve maternal experience .
- Advocacy is especially crucial for communities facing maternal healthcare disparities, including people of color or lower-income families.
Heartline’s fatherhood coaching trains dads to be a supportive advocate for their partner throughout pregnancy and in the delivery room.
Dads and Pregnancy – Action Step 5
- Sit down and outline your birth plan together. Include preferences for pain relief, birthing positions, medical interventions, and who makes decisions.
- Take a childbirth class together, or consider a dad-doula prep program.
- Pack the hospital bag early. Include essentials that support your birth plan: comfy clothes, snacks, soothing (or motivational?) playlist, and a copy of your preferences to share with the medical staff.
Conclusion: Step In. Stay Close. Write Your Fatherhood Story.
Pregnancy isn’t just nine months of waiting—it’s nine months of becoming. Becoming partners. Becoming support systems. Becoming parents.
What You Can Do Today
- Join Heartline’s Fatherhood Coaching to gain tools, mentorship, and a community of dads walking the same path.
- Mark your first “fatherhood” milestone—whether it’s that positive pregnancy test, the ultrasound scan, or a prenatal class—with a meaningful note or memento.
- Keep learning and connecting—read, ask questions, go to appointments, share feelings, and lean in. Fatherhood is a journey, and journeys are rarely as successful when attempted alone.
When men show up—physically, emotionally, mentally—the difference isn’t small: it’s life-changing. For moms, babies, relationships…and for you. Be the kind of dad who didn’t just watch. You stepped in.
Heartline’s Fatherhood Coaching is here for guys like you—ready to learn, lead, and love. Your partner’s pregnancy isn’t a solo act—it’s a duet, a family symphony. We’re honored to help you play your part.
💙 Ready to connect? Visit our Fatherhood Coaching page to get started.
